26 Nov

It is now 20 sleeps until hub gets here and I CAN’T WAIT! Not only because it will mean we can both scratch the itch but man, I need me some adult company. A person who doesn’t spend their day switching between telling me to ‘just do it bro’, yelling ‘Holy Suck’ at everything and/or complaining, whining, thinking I want them all to die because I won’t give them another fuckin chocolate muffin.

The kids continue to enjoy school which I have to keep reminding myself is the main reason we are here. The fact that their Japanese kanji and math work I promised I would keep up is going to complete shit is well, hey. Fuck it. Surely the fact that Shou can say his five times table up to 200 in English AND sing ‘We are the World’ is better than repetitiously writing 遠袳 over and over.

Marina uses the most English overall and her latest is ‘stop shouting at me mum’ – which is testament to I guess the huge amount of shouting I do. Especially in the mornings when it would seem they are awake but their ears are plastered shut to the side of their heads.

Last week we spent five days on a South Island roadie, catching up with friends, checking in with mum and dad in Central Otago, and visiting family. It was pretty full on but worthwhile, if not rather emotional. Going into the cemetery was hard and I got a surprise at how it completely overtook me. The kids were surprised too – seeing me sob because of my hurting heart and not out of sheer frustration at them not listening, which is what they have seen me cry about otherwise! Shou and Marina both got upset too and Ryu was just quite bewildered at the whole experience. Not sure what to do – other than pick flowers and cover his grandparent’s grave. Bless the boy.


I really need to do something with Ryu’s hair. He won’t let me tie it back but it is long enough now to tuck behind his ears. A boy in his class has a 30cm long Rat’s Tail (lord knows if thats what it is called in other countries though) down his back and Ryu would quite fancy one of those, which I am pretty sure would result in Granny K having a complete meltdown.

Which could be kind of amusing I guess.

Right, will leave you with a couple of pics of the Moeraki Boulders down South…



This pic cracks me up. Faark I wish I could both a) take good photos and b) have children that could pose a bit better.

Off to sort through kids clothes and clean up this mess.

Sweet dreams, good health and quiet living you lot.



9 Responses to “Hola!”

  1. Grace November 26, 2014 at 9:10 pm #

    So good to hear from you – I had been wondering what you were up to! In the UK we call it a pony tail, but Rat’s tail works too. Enjoy the remaining time, it will be over far too quickly and don’t worry about the kanji stuff – the kids will soon pick it up again when they are emerged in Japan again.

    • gaijinwife November 26, 2014 at 9:17 pm #

      I completely lost my bloggy mojo but hopefully it is back! It will be over so quickly I know. 3 weeks to the day left of school for the kids. Next term in Japan will be catch up term I guess. I’m sure it will only take a term – well I hope so anyway πŸ™‚

    • Jess November 27, 2014 at 1:33 am #

      Not sure that a rat’s tail and a pony tail are the same thing – a rat’s tail is where a boy lets a few strands of hair at the nape of his neck grow longer than the rest.

      • gaijinwife November 27, 2014 at 1:37 am #

        Yeah, the kid in his class has a rat’s tail not a pony tail. It is so long and he’s only 5!

      • Grace November 28, 2014 at 9:42 am #

        OK, now I see what you mean, yes definately a rat’s tail….

  2. Jo November 27, 2014 at 12:35 am #

    Glad to have you back in blog land. I personally love the idea of Ryu coming back with a rat’s tail… we could all take bets as to how many days it would take for Granny K to slip with her scissors while cutting the top off a daikon!

  3. Brenda in Nagano November 28, 2014 at 6:26 am #

    I imagine visiting your parents was quite difficult. It brought tears to MY eyes, so I can only imagine what it did to yours. I have a question for you though. I know you get upset with the kids and yell, but is it easier than say, when Ryu still needed you to help him with everything? Right now, 1.5 x 2, nearly 4 and nearly 6 is probably the hardest it has ever been. I hate it. Nearly 6 is okay most of the time, but she has an attitude that barely fits through the door and is a shouter (no idea where she got that from!). Nearly 4 is uncontrollable and unreasonable and the twins are 1.5, the age of destruction and total cuteness, but not enough to completely erase the sadness over the destruction they just caused. If I only have this to look forward to for the foreseeable future I don’t know what I’m going to do. And here you are doing it all alone for 6 months. I just can’t even imagine a time when I will ever think I can manage all 4 of them on my own for an extended period of time. In my eyes you are superwoman!

    • gaijinwife November 28, 2014 at 7:10 am #

      Thank you Brenda. I definitely have not been superwoman these past months. It’s tough bloody yakka. Some days it all goes according to plan, and that is actually my downfall. You shouldn’t have your own visions of how an outing or afternoon should go when you have that many small people who all have their own visions and wants rah rah. I have also had a very slow translation month and this has a big impact. I am a lot more productive and happy when I have work and now I have too much free time and not enough γƒžγƒžε‹ to hang out with. Shou is my instigator of shite – he picks on the others – or otherwise him and Ryu play well and Marina gets left out and wants my attention which I seldom give enough of. It is very easy just to feel like a huge failure and I have to remind myself that their experience of these 6 months is probably better than mine πŸ™‚ And don’t worry, I could NOT do four, although I do remember getting pregnant with Marina the night after not seeing hub for six weeks…. he’ll be here in 18 sleeps…. xxxxx

  4. Susan November 29, 2014 at 1:53 am #

    You are way too hard on yourself! I’m sure you give all of your children all the time and attention you can, which is probably way more than our own parents gave us. I rarely remember my mom playing with me while I was growing up, but she was a great mom & we are still very close. You are a good and caring mom and your children will be just fine, no worries. If you’re worried about them keeping up with their Japanese school work just look at how quickly they’ve become fluent/proficient in English in a short period of time. They’ll catch up with their kanji work when they’re back home. I admire this adventure you took on your own with three kids – not easy! – and by the time you see this it will be 17 sleeps πŸ™‚

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