PTA Bollocks, part five thousand

8 Feb

I haven’t posted about PTA bollocks for frickin ages but being part of a school with so few kids and households (21 households in total), being part of the PTA is pretty much a given every bloody year.

Our PTA is made up of three sections (13 positions) – the admin and head section (typically made up of parents of 6th graders), the research and publications section and the extra curricular and sports section. These last two sections are made up of grade reps and residential area reps. So, a parent from each grade puts their hand up and a parent, who hasn’t already put their hand up, puts their hand up for area rep. I am our current area rep. We have 7 kids in our area from 4 households. Next year this will be two and after Marina’s year graduates it will just be Ryu walking to school on his own – or rather with his mum every morning. If our school doesn’t bloody hurry the fuck up and merge!

I have been on the research and publications part of the PTA for FIVE YEARS (yes, so ever since Shou entered Primary school). In total I guess this means about five meetings a year, writing a couple of articles for the school newspaper, and doing a couple of events that involve public speaking – like introducing a person to give a speech on human rights, or wheelchair tennis or whatever.

Tonight we had out last PTA meeting for actual PTA members. Next month we have out last PTA but damn, really it means the same shit we did tonight but with about three other families that didn’t have to be on the PTA and in the middle of the day so everyone that works (nearly everyone) has to take time off.

Following the PTA meeting we had a separate meeting (starting at 8pm) for the current 4th and 5th grade parents. Usually, if you have a larger school, only the 5th grade parents would meet to decide the head PTA duties for the following year. However, due to Japan’s declining birthrate and lack of incentives to go rural and breed, next year will require two year groups to step up to do head and sub head duties.

Next year Shou and HTB are the only 6th graders in our school….

 

Ahem….

WERE GOING TO BE the only 6th graders in our school…

Turns out that last week HTB’s parents (or rather Father) did the paperwork to transfer him and his sister to the school in town – they have their reasons, none of which relate to Shou and/or the school but which, I personally believe, could be overcome and dealt with quite possibly if the desire for their child to finish his schooling at the same school was stronger than one of immediate convenience. Do you remember years ago when Shou was a first grader and I was thinking of taking the kids back to NZ for a whole year for their English? And HTB’s father came to our house, drunk our beer and told me he would transfer his kids to the other school if we left for a year? I changed our plan and we ended up only missing one term off school here. Should have bloody just gone. I already decided not to take the boys back this year because I thought leaving HTB on his own in 6th grade (probably the most important year) was kind of stink. Also the 6th graders have a lot of responsibilities around school, final sports day, yaddah yaddah.

Anyhoo, the whole topic makes me go rabid.

SO, obviously, as the only 6th grade parent next year Hub is going to be head of PTA – we sorted this out years ago. I did ALL the kindergarten PTA stuff (which I might add, is more full on than primary school and complete whole new level (like possibly finishing all the levels and buying the next two disks compared to PTA in New Zealand kind of level), so hub has said from early on that he would be head of PTA at some stage while the kids were at primary school. At the time he said that a man had to do it anyway – which I strongly attested to and got my panties in a twist about. But now I don’t care. And he has had no PTA duties for the last five years while I have the entire time, so fuck it. (Edited to add that actually hub has taken over MY PTA duties while I have been back in NZ 🙂 )

So a lot of conversation was had this evening, the people that don’t put their hand up, didn’t put their hand up – with excuses like, I was sub-head of PTA two years ago. Fuck YOU. You have four kids at the school. You can’t use a sub-head title as any leverage after one year. Fuck Fuck FUCK!

That’s possibly all I have to say. As the only 6th grade parent next year it was obvious that hub would be PTA head, but fuckin pull your shit together mums, I hate people that sit round a table looking at the stitching on the carpet.

 

And yes, I have a lot more I want to say about HTB changing schools. At the very least I thought his father, who was on the PTA this year (per his wife’s request because she knew he would be either head or sub head next year and should thus at least know how the PTA meetings went (she has done them up until this year)) should have said something to the whole group – or at the very very least to the group of 5th grade parents (and me) who assembled from 8pm to discuss next year’s PTA positions.

(Edit – saw his mum this morning and she was disappointed that her hub came home last night without at least saying a few words to the PTA. You know, “sorry for reducing school numbers and making a 5th grade parent have to be sub-head of PTA which I should have been doing” kind of thing. The kids have all gone home and told their parents over the last week but nothing was publicly said so I had a number of mums come up to me and ask if it was true. Anyway, HTB’s mum said she will now have to take the day off work for the last PTA next month and go herself and say something to everyone.

Grrrrr, there is so much more I want to write. I am being SOOOOOO restrained right now.

 

Anyhoo, hope you are all PTA position free and enjoying life!

 

SDGH&QL

 

PS, HTB’s mother is lovely. This is not her choice at all by the sounds of it. The kids also were not in favour of the move originally but seem to now be looking forward to it. Kids are so resilient.

 

 

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6 Responses to “PTA Bollocks, part five thousand”

  1. Grace Palmer February 8, 2018 at 3:46 pm #

    No more PTA bollocks for me – my kids are now 22 and 19 ….. but I do remember those days, luckily for me, we were at a reasonable sized junior school and there were always other yummy mummies who were keen to run things 🙂
    How is that going to work with only 1 child in the 6th grade? not allowed over here, the school would have been closed and merged long ago.

    • gaijinwife February 8, 2018 at 11:12 pm #

      The principal wants to meet to discuss classroom arrangements. This is the first time it has happened in our town (out of 3 primary schools). Since dwindling numbers our school has, for years had a single first grade class, a joint 2nd and 3rd grade class, a joint 4th and 5th grade class and a single 6th grade class. By the sounds of it he has already decided (or been told) that one kid and one teacher isn’t OK so the 5th and 6th graders will have to be in a joint class. Shou will still get taken out for math and Japanese and science and the like and have one on one teacher – so guess I can’t complain there!!

      I’m sure that when my kids are the age your kids are now I’ll be swilling wine with my mum friends and laughing (possibly in an insane, mentally unstable kind of way) about school PTA!!

  2. Ruth February 12, 2018 at 12:46 pm #

    Fuuuckkk! How is Shou nearly a chugakusei?? That is mental. Has HTB calmed down any in the last few years? I wonder how well he’ll adapt to a big class after it just being him and Shou for so long.

    • gaijinwife February 13, 2018 at 4:16 am #

      I know, they are 11 already. Craziness. You’ll get a real surprise when you see them in just over FOUR WEEKS!!! HTB has calmed down but I imagine it will still be a big adjustment from him and Shou to him and 14 other boys!

  3. Susan (Eastendmom) June 6, 2018 at 3:46 am #

    Where are you? I miss your posts! Hope all is well & you’re just up to your eyeballs in PTO bollocks.

    • gaijinwife September 8, 2018 at 6:11 am #

      Thanks for this comment Susan. It’s part of the reason I’m back ❤

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